It has been a really long time since i’ve let anyone make me feel inferior just because of my sexuality, but tonight when driving one of my new college friends home I briefly mentioned ‘my girlfriend’ in conversation and suddenly felt the atmosphere go a bit tense.
I calmly asked my friend if she had a boyfriend and she replied “no, I am allowed to sort of date but I guess it is frowned upon in my religion so I don’t and wont have a boyfriend until I decide to get married.”
WHOA THERE WASN’T EXPECTING THAT. (I guess I should have seen something coming as earlier in the day she had told me that her family do not watch television and prefer to do more old fashioned activities (which is totally cool and at the time I was almost jealous of)).
I asked her if she was homophobic and she basically said ‘no, but it is your choice to live that way and therefore it is your own fault if people treat you differently for it.’
I think her first words were “I’m not scared of gays” when I asked if she was homophobic.
No you’re not scared, but you are completely close minded to the fact that it is not actually a life choice, but more a way of life.
I kept explaining that ‘no one would choose this in their right mind, it can be extremely difficult’ but she just kept saying well that is fine because thats how you want to be. NO ITS NOT THOUGH OH MY GOD.
I then gave up and dropped her at her house and zoomed off.
I hate myself for feeling embaressed for who I am, and I hardly ever let peoples opinions of me get to me anymore, but since she has been a nice friend up to now, I actually feel quite uncomfortable. I don’t know how people can be so close minded in the country that we live in. People have serious struggles everyday just trying to live the life that makes them happy, all because some people think it is their business to have an opinion on how others should live.
What is normal anymore? Maybe I live a more ‘normal’ life than you?
It’s really nice that she has a religion that she truly believes in and that it does make her happy, but I do feel she also needs to accept the world she is living in. I wouldn’t ever push my beliefs on someone. Wow.
Go on, just be completely yourself for one day, I dare you.