To be white, or straight, or male, or middle class is to be simultaneously ubiquitious and invisible. You’re everywhere you look, you’re the standard against which everyone else is measured. You’re like water, like air. People will tell you they went to see a “woman doctor” or they will say they went to see “the doctor.” People will tell you they have a “gay colleague” or they’ll tell you about a colleague. A white person will be happy to tell you about a “Black friend,” but when that same person simply mentions a “friend,” everyone will assume the person is white. Any college course that doesn’t have the word “woman” or “gay” or “minority” in its title is a course about men, heterosexuals, and white people. But we call those courses “literature,” “history” or “political science.”
This invisibility is political.
Don’t tell thin women to eat a cheeseburger. Don’t tell fat women to put down the fork. Don’t tell underweight men to bulk up. Don’t tell women with facial hair to wax, don’t tell uncircumcised men they’re gross, don’t tell muscular women to go easy on the dead-lift, don’t tell dark-skinned women to bleach their vaginas, don’t tell black women to relax their hair, don’t tell flat-chested women to get breast implants, don’t tell “apple-shaped” women what’s “flattering,” don’t tell mothers to hide their stretch marks, and don’t tell people whose toes you don’t approve of not to wear flip-flops. And so on, etc, etc, in every iteration until the mountains crumble to the sea. Basically, just go ahead and CEASE telling other human beings what they “should” and “shouldn’t” do with their bodies unless a) you are their doctor, or b) SOMEBODY GODDAMN ASKED YOU.
Welcome to the Bi’s of Colour Tumblr
The Tumblr space for the UK Bi’s of Colour group.
Bi’s of Colour:
Bi(sexual), not straight or gay, queer, pansexual, bicurious, unsure people all welcome
Attracted to more than one gender? Attracted to men and women? Welcome.
We aren’t interested in whether you are ‘gay enough’ or ‘queer enough’ or ‘too straight’ or how many relationships you’ve had/who with.
Those who are descended (through one or both parents) from anywhere in Africa, Asia and Latin America, the original inhabitants of Australasia, North America, and the islands of the Atlantic, Indian and Pacific Oceans.
We explicitly welcome and invite mixed race people.
We’re not interested in whether you are ‘black enough’, lots of us aren’t.
We welcome anyone who defines/sees themself anywhere in *both* of these groups.
This is the tumblr/one of the online spaces for the new UK Bis of Colour group. Questions and queries in comments or to firstname.lastname@example.org